“Here, this is for you!” Growing up, Christmas was more about the excitement of giving a unique and thoughtful gift than an expensive one. And just as exciting to receive, because it was always unexpected, fun and significant – though rarely significant in price.
So I’m puzzled when my gift of a compliment or kind word is poo-poo’d.
When I give a compliment, I wrap it with thoughtfulness and authenticity, and hope it’s received as the gift I intend it to be. If you struggle with the limelight, consider this:
You are worth it.
Maybe it’s contrary to your belief about yourself, or the worth others have defined for you, I think you’re worth it. In fact, I wouldn’t take the time or effort if I didn’t think you were.
I mean what I say.
I think there is a severe abuse of trust amongst humanity, for a variety of reasons, namely fear, hurt and that nasty ego working on self-preservation. But I challenge you to drop the potential reasons to not believe and try the compliment on for size. How does it feel? What if there were no story? What if your positive qualities just needed a little spotlight?!
No strings attached.
I give without expecting reciprocation. This is not a gift exchange. I’m not waiting for you to deliver something of equal or greater value. I’m asking you to receive what I freely give you. Acknowledge it and receive it with the warmth with which it was given.
Say thank you.
Just practice. It might just put an end to the awkwardness.
Gift someone else.
Learn to see the good in others. Encourage it in them, and help them to see the good in themselves.